When trauma sets its thunderous shock wave in your direction you have a choice.
When you are beset with pain, challenges and hardships there is a choice.
You can hide. You can hide or push people away. You can express anger. You can punch walls, cry loudly and bark at any sudden movement.
I suggest it, it feels good and cathartic. Be careful not to spoil other peoples days, but let out some of the steam.
When you have had enough of the anger monsters medicine, you can choose to learn.
You can choose to open to the pain, learn about it. See what else it brought up. What triggers are there from the experience and what is from the past? What expectations did you put on others that did not work out? Breath, cry, breath and keep on keeping on.
You can keep moving, keep growing, keep learning. There is no time frame, there is no should, just work through it. Just keep growing, keep pushing.
I just lost my job. It hurts. It brought up some deep rooted traumas of mine that have been effecting my life for many years. It brought up a demon in me that I no longer want to carry around. It is helping me to recognize the work I have to do to heal myself and my community.
I am not moving on, I am in the moment, being present and aware. I am hurting but moving and healing. I am angry and sad but excited and anxious. I am broken and bruised but I am ready to put myself back together, more complete and alive then ever before.
Every great trauma is a deep healing in disguise.